Do you ever just stop and wonder, ‘Why am I doing what I’m doing?’ I’ve asked myself that a lot. Lately, I’ve been realizing that I don’t have to do ‘everything.’ Why do I say ‘yes’ to some things and ‘no’ to others?
On Sunday, one of the guys from church exhorted on Galatians 5:22-23 (the fruit of the Holy Spirit), and he specifically talked about ‘faithfulness.’ It made me think about how I’m not good at knowing when to say ‘Yes’ and when to say ‘No’. I often overestimate my ability (human ability), and I become a grumpy ball of stress. And that causes a lack of faithfulness and dependability in my life…
What is faithfulness?
Luke 16:10 has been a verse that has really re-defined and re oriented my thinking on what it is to be faithful this year. . . ‘He that is faithful in that which is least, is faithful also in much; and he that is unjust in the least, is unjust also in much.’
This year my goal was to be more faithful in the little things. The years before I wanted to do everything, but I can’t say that my motivation was always to serve the Lord, to love God and to love others. Too often, I did things more out of fear than out of faith and love.
I had forgotten the whole purpose of the law in 1 Timothy 1:5 for God’s children, ‘Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned:’
I wasn’t doing these things out of love as much as I should have, and this year was a HUGE shift, almost like a train wreck at points, in my thinking about the things I said, ‘Yes’ to and the things I said ‘no’ to. I learned my human limitations. I learned that I am truly like a flower of the field; my energy isn’t limitless, and I do have to sleep.
What did I learn about not doing everything and saying ‘Yes’ and ‘No’?
#1) Jesus didn’t do everything when He was here on earth. He said many times that He came to do the will of His Father. John 4:34 says, ‘Jesus said to them, “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to accomplish his work.’
So if God is my Father, should I put other people’s desires or God’s desires first in my life?
#2) Well, I know that I do have the privilege of getting to love other people. If I say, ‘No’ to something, it shouldn’t be out of spite or hatred for the other person. If I say, ‘No’ I need to carefully evaluate whether I am loving them, being honest about my own limited capabilities, and doing it out of a desire to be wise and careful with time spent on various projects.
#3) If it doesn’t seem right after searching the Scripture, praying for God’s wisdom, and asking for counsel, it is okay for me to say, ‘No thank you! I”ll have to pass it up this time.’
That’s much better than me saying, ‘Yes’ and then backing out later. Like James says in James 5:12, ‘But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.’
#4) If I commit to less, I can do a better and more excellent job to the glory of my Lord and Savior, then if I’m trying to spread myself over too many things. – It’s the same principle as being faithful in little things.
Last but not least, I want to do it in the right spirit. And that is the BEST and the HARDEST part. Yet, Jesus Christ was and is the best example. And by God’s grace, I can do things for others, out of love and not out of selfishness or out of fear or worry.
Philippians 2: 3-8, ‘Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.’
And sometimes those moments of loving service can come in the form of …
Bike rides with sisters in God’s awesome creation…
Or semi-spontaneous road-trips… Let’s be clear about this one. At first I didn’t want to go on this road trip, but there was one night before we left that the Lord really convicted me that this was the thing I needed to do. It turned out to be an amazing time with my sister; my sister is THE BOMB.COM to road-trip with, and she bore with my indecisiveness and grumpiness in the initial beginning stages of the trip. She also forgave me, and she was super chill the whole road trip, which was an amazing blessing.
Also, every day I have to step back and remember why I’m doing what I’m doing. If there’s no reason for it, I often lose motivation and clarity. That usually comes in the form of needing to step back and spend time with Jesus so I can just be reminded why I do everything I do.
It really is all because of Jesus.
The motivation of love is the most awesome motivation, and the love of God is just absolutely incredible.
1 John 3:1-2, ‘Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not. Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is.’
The biggest lesson of all?
I can’t do everything, but the things God gives me to do should be done in the right spirit or else they will become a burden too heavy to bear.
Do you ever feel like you have to do everything?
Who are you loving on today?
How do you align your priorities so you don’t feel like you have to do ‘everything?’
How do you serve others?
What motivates you to do what you do?
Linking up with Lori for ‘Moments of Hope’ Wednesday!
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