Who else loves Hallmark movies? Or am I the only one? I want to share a few favorites, but I’ll wait till a podcast I hope to do with my sisters about ALL THINGS Christmas comes out next week. Instead I’ll use this post to talk about being single, but not just ‘single’. I want to talk about what this year taught me about being happily single.
Our world places a lot of value on relationships. That’s not a bad thing; in fact God created us for relationship! He created you, me for a relationship with Him, and that’s what Christmas is about 100%. It’s about Jesus Christ, maker of Heaven and earth, coming down to restore the relationship between God the Father and man, because we had all fallen from Him.
Relationships are wonderful. They are such a joy. I can say that even though I am single, I do not have a life that is devoid of relationships. In fact, it’s just so full of friendships and relationships, I must admit that I can not keep up with all of it. I just feel so blessed with all of them; I know that without the Lord I would just freak out and totally ruin all of them with my human weakness.
But lately I’ve been asking myself how can I apply this verse from Philippians to where I am right now?
Philippians 4:11, ‘Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.’
I wrote this post this year, and God has been doing massive things in my heart since then; it’s been almost overwhelming. I had the privilege of being in a courting/getting to know you relationship earlier in the year from about May to July, and it went the way I didn’t quite expect. But God knew, and He knew He was going to teach me an even deeper level of contentment in Him.
I’ve learned that I DO need other people this year.
I’ve learned that I can’t think that marriage will make me happy.
I’ve learned that I need to be finding my JOY in the Lord.
I’ve learned that marriage is NOT a bad thing, but it’s right when/if the Lord has it for you.
I’ve learned more about marriage being a precious picture of Jesus Christ and His bride the church.
I’ve learned that there is nothing quite as FUN as watching Hallmark movies, making funny cheesy comments, laughing with my sisters, saying, ‘Awww,’ at the stories, and remembering that if the Lord has a love story for me, it will be perfectly crafted for His glory.
I’ve learned that being happily single is a daily fight; it’s a daily fight to find my worth in Christ Jesus, not the promise of a relationship with a guy.
I’ve learned that my sisters are some of the BEST friends I will ever have, and I want to absorb all these memories I can make with them right now. I don’t want to miss this.
Speaking of which I am going to share one of my new favorite songs from Trace Adkins: (I both love country and hate country. Some songs are amazing; and some are terrible.)
You’re Gonna Miss This
She was staring out the window, of that, SUV
Complaining saying I can’t wait to turn 18
She said I’ll make my own money, and I’ll make my own rules
Mama put the car in park out there in front of the school
And she kissed her head, and said I was just like you
You’re gonna miss this, you’re gonna want this back
You’re gonna wish these days, hadn’t gone by so fast
These are some good times, so take a good look around
You may not know it now, but you’re gonna miss this
What does happily single look like right now for me?
Taking each day with so much joy and excitement about being with my family and getting to watch my sisters grow their gifts.
Getting to grow my gifts and learn about taking responsibility, trusting God for each scary step.
Getting to travel, go to events, have the flexibility to be available for friends or family that I might not have if I was married.
Holding each day with an open hand knowing that it could change and knowing that if it did, it would be all in God’s will.
Happily single is not always easy, but it’s worth it. It’s worth EMBRACING.
Tell me: if you’re married how did you find joy in being happily single?
If you’re single, how are you learning to be happily and joyfully single?