Kelsey is such a sweet friend. I’ve had her on the podcast two other times, and they’ve been precious times together. We’ve talked about how the men in your life can make you feel valuable and Kelsey’s story of recovery from an eating disorder. But this time we’re talking about an entirely different subject. Kelsey came on and shared about why she needed to leave Instagram this year.
I’m on social media, but for a long time I deleted Twitter and FaceBook, because I was on them ALL. THE. TIME. I had to leave them, because my life was tremendously out of balance. And it was a FREEDOM. They felt like more of a chain than an asset, because I spent so much time with them.
And it was hurting my relationship with my sisters especially.
I would be on them while watching a movie.
I would be on them when I could be eating dinner with my family.
I would be on them instead of outside on a walk or playing with puppies with my sisters.
I wasn’t present with my family. I was more present in the online world than I was one in real life.
This podcast isn’t about how social media is bad. This podcast isn’t about how we should all leave Instagram and FaceBook and Twitter. In fact I now have a FaceBook account again and Twitter, but I don’t feel the same urge or need to be on them all the time.
Social media is a great connection tool.
It was actually the way I connected with Kelsey, but over the summer God drew her into a different season.
In the podcast today we talked about:
– How God drew Kelsey into a Quieter Season
– Learning to Embrace Quiet instead of Feeling the Need to Be Constantly Busy
– Why Instagram was Good for A Few Seasons of Kelsey’s Life
– What Kelsey is Learning Now That She’s Not On Instagram
– The Benefits of Really Searching Out Whether Social Media is Hurting or Helping You
– Why Social Media Isn’t Bad
– What Kelsey’s Days Have Looked Like Without Instagram
– Why Social Media Needs Balance and It’s Not For Everybody
(I also left a little … um… break in there, because I had to make sure my dog wasn’t eating out of my snack basket.)
Sometimes we just need to embrace those quieter moments, because we’ve been filling our heads with too much noise. I LOVE how Psalm 23 paints that picture with such beauty.
Psalm 23:1-4, ‘The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.’
So what are my strategies for the balance of social media since I still love Instagram and feel like it’s helpful for me?
#1 – Put your phone away at a certain time of the night. Don’t pull it out again even if you feel like you ‘need to.’ You will be happier for it!
#2 – Don’t follow 2,000 people on Instagram or even 500, because you just won’t be able to stretch yourself that far, and you’ll feel like you have to be on Instagram all day to catch up with people.
#3 – Intentionally don’t bring your phone to a meal, or if you do, snap that picture you want of your yummy food and then put your phone away where it’s out of sight and out of mind.
#4 – Be vulnerable with the people that are closest to you before you bare your heart on social media. Be careful about what you share on social media. People on social media don’t have to know every. single. part of our lives. Don’t fake it, but don’t hide all your struggles from your closest loved ones and share them with those who don’t know you as well.
I love social media and all the victories it’s allowed me to share. It’s allowed me to share God’s faithfulness, His goodness, and to connect with other girls who need prayer, other girls who can point me towards Jesus.
But I do have to have that balance too, because anything out of balance like social media quickly becomes an idol in my life. As one person so aptly said, ‘The human heart is an idol making factory.’
Mine is definitely that, and I need time away from social media in order to bless people when I come back to social media. And I hope and pray that throughout the years, as long as God keeps me there, that I would be consistent, more faithful, and a testimony to God’s work in the life of a lost sinner, saved and rescued by grace.
Have you ever left a social media platform?
Why would you leave a certain social media platform?
Where do you find you’ve gained the most encouragement on social media?
How do you learn to balance life and a bit of social media?
If you’re not on social media what are your reasons?