(Thank you to my brother for the photo!)
The men in my life. I’m thinking primarily of my daddy and my brother to begin with; they have ALWAYS made me feel valuable. They never reduced it to the way I looked, the size of my waist; in fact my brother has told me that he thinks women need to nourish themselves more and be stronger and not focus on skinny. I LOVE THAT. I need to hear that especially with the pressure to look a certain skinny size when that’s not how I was created.
That’s why I’m doing this podcast. I’m doing this podcast to encourage people that it is OK to seek out those relationships in Christ Jesus with brothers in Christ, with your daddy, your brother or brothers, your brothers in Christ Jesus at church that make you feel valuable, remind you of how Christ Jesus sees you.
More and more I’m craving those friendships in Christ Jesus that will remind me of the inner beauty that 1 Peter reminds me of.
‘Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.’ (1 Peter 3:3-4)
When a man can see that in you and encourage that, that is a friendship worth keeping. And I think when that marriage relationship comes along, that dating relationship comes along, if that’s what the Lord has for you, that should be one of the most important parts.
My brother has done countless amounts of races with us. He has motivated me to overcome obstacles like my fears of eating, my fears of gaining weight; he has reminded me that value is SOOO much more than what you look like on the outside.
That is the kind of guy that I love. Because he’s so much deeper. He’s got so much more substance to him.
This is that kind of godly man that lays down his life for his friends, that treasures that hidden woman of the heart.
But I wanted to really get into this with a short podcast episode with my friend Kelsey about why the right guy relationships are so important.
We talked about:
How Kelsey’s Husband Made Her Feel Valued and Loved
Why It’s Important to Encourage Girls to Seek Out That Relationship with A Mentor, Spiritual Father, Their Daddy, Their Brothers that makes them realize the value they have in Christ
If A Guy Makes You Feel Like the Only Thing He Likes About You Is Your Looks What Should You Do?
Not Basing Your Worth on Trying to Please Guys With Your Appearance
Why It’s Ok To Accept A Guy’s Respectful Comments About Your Appearance
Why Emily Has Learned That Ultimately She Gets to Dress up For the Lord But That It’s Ok to Feel Feminine Too
I know this isn’t an easy part of eating disorders and recovery and self worth, but it’s important. For a long time, I did struggle in my head with feeling like the less stylish girl, the less pretty girl, the girl that probably wouldn’t ever be in a relationship cause I’m just too ugly, but those were lies I believed. For a long time I resisted the idea of someone telling me that I was beautiful, because I felt like that was vain.
But . . . God is doing something in my life, something that I hope to tell you more about, and God is teaching me through certain people that I am beautiful, that that beauty isn’t based in the way I look, but there is a radiance when Christ Jesus rescues you, when Christ Jesus saves you, that people can’t help but notice.
Basically, I’ve learned in my whole journey of really struggling to see my worth in Christ, that you want to find those friends, find those people who remind you of that worth in Christ Jesus.
Are there men in your life that make you feel valuable?
How have you learned that having a godly father/spiritual mentor/brother to be important?