Serving as a single; what does it look like? Singleness isn’t exactly touted as the preferred state of life. You know how people get really excited when you’re in a relationship or engaged or getting married? It’s not easy to find opportunities especially when you’re 25, don’t have children, and you have a household where there are not one, but five grown women who are all good at: laundry, cooking food, cleaning, and more.
Some days you wonder, ‘What am I supposed to be doing? I don’t want to be living for myself, but how do I serve others?’
This has been a question that has dogged me, almost plagued me for the past 4-5 years since I turned 20.
How do I serve when it’s not obvious? (I don’t have kids or a husband)
1. Serve in your family in the best ways you can find. If you like cooking and someone else in your family loves cleaning, you do more of the cooking and they can do the cleaning.
2. If you like folding the laundry or putting it away, and someone else likes gathering it from around the house, you can fold it all and put it away.
3. Pray for people. Find people in church, friends, family, connections on social media that need prayer, and write a prayer list or keep a mental prayer list in your head so that you can keep your eyes on how you can love God and love the body of Christ.
4. Find a place where God wants you to serve:
Cooking for People
Baking Goodies for People
Writing Encouraging Notes to Others
Praying at Abortion Mills for Abortion to End
Those are just a few of the areas I can think of, but I’m excited to dig into this week’s podcast with one of my sweet friends and sisters in Christ who I’ve known ever since she and I were little.
This girl serves with her JOY in the Lord, her love for her family, her love for little children, and she inspires me to follow Jesus and seek the Lord’s face more and more as a single young woman.
Galatians 5:13, ‘For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.’
Colossians 3:24, ‘Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.’
Savannah is a precious girl, and she runs a beautiful photography account that you can see here: Savvy Smiles Photography. All the really beautiful photos you see in this post are from her.
In today’s podcast Savannah and I talked about:
– What does service look like for a young woman who is single?
– Why singleness isn’t a curse but a blessing
– Singleness being a way to use your gifts in lots of different ways
– How Savannah has served in her family
– What does Jesus say about service?
– What does Christ directed service look like?
– Why it can be harder to find ways to serve if you have a lot of capable young people in the home.
– Ways of Plugging Your Gifts into the family or church family
– Why service is so crucial for young single people
– Why Thriving in your walk with the Lord is essential to service
Matthew 20:28, ‘just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”’
Romans 12:1-2, ‘Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.’
SHOW NOTES: (A whole list of areas in which you can serve/use gifts you may have that Savannah provided)
This was just a sampling of talking about something that is so near and dear to my heart, and y’all, it’s still so hard for me to figure out the balance. Sometimes I want to do EVERYTHING, and then I wear myself out, and I realize I can’t.
This morning I was reading Psalm 101, and it hit me hard with this verse.
Psalm 105:4, ‘Seek the Lord, and his strength: seek his face evermore.’
It’s about seeking the Lord. Seek the Lord for how He wants you to serve. Know that He wants us to lay our lives down, but don’t compare how you lay your life down to the other person next to you. Remember that we are all created different with different gifts and goals, and God gives us each unique ways to exercise those gifts for His glory.
Other Blog Posts and Podcasts on Singlehood from the Blog:
How have you learned to enjoy serving others?
Serving others in singleness; what does it look like?
If you’re married how does serving in singleness help prepare you for marriage?
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