Walking through heartbreak has seemed to be a theme of the year as much as walking through joy has been for many people this year. I, personally, walked through a lot of anger, bitterness, jealousy, discontentment, and the idolizing of marriage and a ‘dating relationship’ for about 6 months, until the Lord really broke me and showed me the depth of my sin and how much I had held a prolonged pity party for where God has me right now.
That’s not to say that heartbreak is bad or sinful, but my heart went to so many sinful emotions and spent too long on myself and my ‘problems’ without being thankful or praising God for walking with me through the valleys.
Right here, the Lord says that He is near to the broken in heart.
Psalm 34:18, ‘The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.’
I can testify that this verse is 100% true. I went through many dark nights of questioning God and wondering why I had this deep desire for marriage, but I ‘felt’ like it was being withheld from me.
Yet, the Lord was actually giving me something much better; the gift of getting to know Him deeper and better, learning to trust God, learning that He is more than I need, learning that He is the only One that can truly satisfy the hungry soul.
This is not about me though; it’s about a dear blogger friend that was willing to share her own story with heartbreak and disappointment, her own sister getting married and how she was so happy, yet so sad to not have her own relationship, and how God used all of this to drive her to know Him and seek Him more. (Rachel is the co-blogger at Athletic Avocado with her identical twin sister, Bethany.)
In the podcast Rachel poured out her heart on :
– Learning to lament as a Christian
– Weeping may endure for the night, but Rachel reminded us it doesn’t stay that way
– Trusting God and clinging to His promises
– Being angry and bitter and sad when it feels like others are getting married but you feel ‘forgotten’
– learning that God is truly sovereign over every relationship
– What Paul says about singleness
– Fighting and wrestling with God for true contentment in Him (Genesis 22:24-29, ‘ And Jacob was left alone; and there wrestled a man with him until the breaking of the day. And when he saw that he prevailed not against him, he touched the hollow of his thigh; and the hollow of Jacob’s thigh was out of joint, as he wrestled with him. And he said, Let me go, for the day breaketh. And he said, I will not let thee go, except thou bless me. And he said unto him, What is thy name? And he said, Jacob. And he said, Thy name shall be called no more Jacob, but Israel: for as a prince hast thou power with God and with men, and hast prevailed. And Jacob asked him, and said, Tell me, I pray thee, thy name. And he said, Wherefore is it that thou dost ask after my name? And he blessed him there.’
– Seeing the single season (whether it’s just for now or life long) as a gift
– Getting to serve where you’re at as a single person
– Learning to appreciate marriage, not be skeptical, but not idolize it
Verses Rachel has meditated on so much this year in the midst of intense heartbreak:
Psalm 126:5-6, ‘They that sow in tears shall reap in joy. He that goeth forth and weepeth, bearing precious seed, shall doubtless come again with rejoicing, bringing his sheaves with him.’
‘“Remember not the former things,
nor consider the things of old.
19 Behold, I am doing a new thing;
now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?
I will make a way in the wilderness
and rivers in the desert’
Psalm 27:13, ‘I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.’
Psalm 30:5, ‘For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is for life; Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the morning.’
This was a rich podcast y’all. It was full of brutal honesty, redemption, God’s power, God’s glory, and such a sweet reminder to me that this single season is worth it because you get to encourage other single people in a way you wouldn’t be able to do if you were married.
Other Resources for Encouragement for the Christian Singles:
Articles at Desiring God (Just search ‘singleness’. They are ALWAYS life giving.)
Behold Your God Podcast – Life is SO much more than marriage and a romantic relationship in marriage. It’s about beholding and serving our God in every area, including your singleness.
Single ladies: have you walked through heartbreak? Are you walking through it now? What is God teaching you through it?